- Trans people are not cutting-edge theories at the frontier of feminism/gender studies/whatever.
- Trans people are not under any more of an obligation to alter their bodies, gender identifications, or gender expressions for some higher goal than cis people are.
- If a trans person does not present/experience/identify/etc. their gender the way you want them to, it is none of your fucking business, nor does it mean you can generalize about all trans people (or subgroup of trans people) from your experiences with and observations of said trans person.
All of them are worth a read, but this one I like the most:
Nobody gives a shit that you don't believe in gender.
You don't have to believe in something for it to exist, and perhaps the fact that you don't ever think about gender speaks more to your privilege than to the way that trans people are "perpetuating norms and stereotypes" or "supporting the gender binary" or whatever.
Gender in-and-of itself isn't a bad thing, it is just a thing.
It is the forced assignment of gender to people against their identification and the inequality between members of different genders that is problematic.
(and am I the only one a bit saddened/enraged that this was posted 2 years ago and I still feel it's incredibly relevant to how people treat trans people today?)